Lessons in Life: What My Late 30's Have Taught Me!
Well, let me start by saying, I am thankful, oh so thankful, to God for allowing me to live a healthy lifestyle thus far! I am no gym rat, I have weeks I workout five to six days, and then I have weeks where getting three workout sessions was a miracle! I eat healthy yes, but I also eat terrible on occasion and even on some weekends! You see, for what I have learned about my body in my late 30's, is that, keeping a balance between the good foods and the bad foods has worked for me! Sure I fluctuate a few pounds here and there, sure I gain water weight mostly to my arms and face, but for the most part, I consider myself healthy and happy! I mean, come on now, I am surely not 20 anymore! Although to be brutally honest, I still feel like I am living the teenage years!
Could this be because I have been married for almost 17 years to my high school sweetheart, we have four kids, and he has worked his butt off so that I can stay home and care for our kids as well as raise them? I am fortunate and grateful for that! God knew, I wanted a big family deep down (because in my early dating years I swore I would never have kids) and He knew I would have the patience and nurturing abilities to raise three boys and one girl! When my husband and I got married, we were both 21 years old! We made our first big purchase, which we have called home for the last 17 years, and we had our first child right away! But we did have struggles with having more kids. I suffered three miscarriages between the first born and our second! They are eight and a half years apart!
Shortly before finding out we were pregnant with our second child, I was having an ultra sound done to find out why I was miscarrying every time we got pregnant. It was on that very day, my doctor advised me that I had a tumor the size of a tennis ball in my stomach wall, I was immediately scheduled for surgery because they needed to do a biopsy to see if it was cancerous or benign. I remember this day vividly! I remember going into pre-op and upon doing the urine samples, the nurses running in and out, calling the surgeon and my OBGYN, I am scared, everything was happening so fast. It was in that pre-op room that my doctors advised us that I was six weeks pregnant!
My heart was racing, we had tried for so many years for another child and here are all my doctors telling me I also have a tumor that we don't know is cancerous or not. I prayed, I cried, we prayed and we cried. I asked my OBGYN for the risks if we did not abort (that was my doctor's first option). My husband and I decided not to abort, we both decided that if it was God's will, the tumor would be benign and I would continue the pregnancy! Long story short, the biopsy determined it was benign and I came out of surgery closely monitored for our pregnancy! I was still scared as could be, but our faith and prayers allowed me to carry our son full term! I now had a c-section scar and a tumor removal scar, a T! But I didn't care about the scars, I was blessed, God gave us a beautiful healthy baby boy who we named Benjamin!
Three years later, we had our daughter and fifteen months later, we had our fourth and final son! We are now a family of six! I was almost 33 when we had our fourth son, Liam! I didn't think we would ever have such wonderful kids, such good kids, and I most certainly never thought I would have the patience and motherly love that I have for my kids! And now, in my late 30's, my kids are all in school, they are independent, and they are crazy wild! But I think in all honesty, that is what keeps me young at heart! I am always on the go, I am always folding laundry, I feel on days that I have the mop and broom glued to me because I am constantly cleaning! But I wouldn't change it for the world!
I have also learned to dedicate more time for myself, more time for my husband and I, and more time to do what I love on my spare time (if any)! I used to be all about everyone else, helping everyone that needed me, not giving myself any time! Pleasing everyone BUT me! And all it got me was disappointment and sadness! I learned to say NO! Finally, in my late 30's, I have been the happiest, because I spend time with those that really truly matter! I spend my time making memories with my husband and kids, I have allowed myself peace and tranquility! I have learned to be a positive mind, have a positive spirit, and humble myself with those that truly and honestly want to be a part of my life!
38 seems too old to all these young millennial's today, BUT not for me! When I say 38, I say it proudly! No shame here! I am a FABULOUS 38 and I thank God for everything thus far! So with that said, let me share with you all my faithful readers and followers, my 38th birthday outfits and why they are special to me!
So, I have a favorite movie, Mean Girls, and today on my birthday October 3, 2018, two quotes from that movie happen to fall on the same day, what a special day for ME! "On October 3rd, he asked me what day it was. It's October 3rd!" and "On Wednesday's we wear pink!" Hence, my pink suit (Spring purchase from Target, brand, A New Day!) and the Zara sequin dress I found at my local Clothes Mentor store! Don't mind those gem resale finds!
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